So I’m just going to put myself out there on this – you guys can refrain from any “you haven’t been a parent long enough”, etc. comments I realize that there tough times ahead – but it makes me said to see folks sending out “the parenting terrors”, listing every terrible thing that could happen or does happen for a period of time.
A friend on the good ol’ FB made a post about how she “has to admit I’m almost jealous of all you out there with cute tinies”. This coming from a friend who really has no desire to be a parent and never really has, but here pipes up a “friend” of theirs with:
“Reality check: stretch marks, stretched out nipples from feeding, boobs that hang rather than sit, diapers, whining, fighting, no sleep, no sex, puberty, and someone always yelling MOM at the top of their lungs for the rest of your life! Yeah they are born cute for a reason so that way we keep them.”
No wonder so many of my generation don’t want kids if this is all there is to look forward to.
So here’s my counter, as someone who never thought they’d want to be a parent and who loves it more and more each day.
Parenthood is hard and not for the faint of heart, stomach or mind. So is being a Navy SEAL, but more people will tell you not to become a parent than will tell you not to become a Navy SEAL.
Yes, your body will change, but it will change because it doing what it’s made to do and one day you look down at those stretchmarks and realize they’re battle-scars and you’ll be proud.
Yes, there will be diapers, spit-up, throw-up, whining, fighting, crying and screaming and one day you’ll have to deal with it all at once, then it will be all over and for a moment you’ll believe that you might just be magic.
Yes, there will be no sleep and for once in your life it will be for reasons that don’t revolve around you and you’ll realize that it’s no different than the hundreds of other sleepless nights in your life.
Yes, there will be no sex and you’ll realize how much a true relationship can deepen without it.
Yes, there will be puberty and if you’re lucky you’ll realize that you’ve been given the chance to make it better than yours was.
Yes, there will always be someone yelling MOM and hopefully, before it’s too late, you’ll realize that it’s because you are the beginning and end to someones whole world.
And you’ll smile and never understand why you were so lucky.